The Baby Name Dispute
November 1st, 2008
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So, I’m just a little past 4 months pregnant (and definitely showing already booo), and mrQ and I are already squabbling over what to name #2. The baby name subject is just so completely stressful! We’ve both got that feeling that #2 is going to be a little girl, but we have two totally different, how should I say this, styles, when it comes to baby-naming.
mrQ is dead-set on the name he wants for the baby assuming she’s a she, but to be completely honest, I hate the name he’s chosen. By his logic though, since I had the final decision in what littleQ should be named, then his wishes should take precedence with #2.
I like strong names steeped with history or meaning. mrQ likes names that sound nice. I like names that don’t sound like another word that has a negative meaning. mrQ thinks if it sounds nice, who cares if it reminds me of another word, because it isn’t that word. Does that make sense?
Argh, I don’t like bringing up the baby-naming subject with him because I get so irritated (God help me with these raging mom hormones), but he’s calling #2 by his chosen name already. He can’t wait until our complete ultrasound later this month when we find out #2’s gender so he can start using the name all the time (again, assuming she’s a she). How can I possibly not get annoyed when I haven’t agreed? At this rate I might have to make sure he’s out getting me some noodles or something while I’m filling out the paperwork at the hospital in 5 months. Well, no I guess I can’t do that… I’m not that mean to the hubby.
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My husband and I had a rule that we had to agree on the baby’s name. If one didn’t like the name then we had to come up with a different name. BOTH of you have to like the name. This isn’t something that can be forced on one OR the other. So my suggestion would be for each of you to come up with the names that you like and hand them over. The other person crosses out the names that they absolutely don’t like and from there you keep the names that you are both willing to at least give a second glance to. If your husband insists on calling the baby a name that you absolutely detest while you are pregnant then cut him off and don’t have sex with him for the rest of the pregnancy. How’s THAT for compromising!
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@ Angela ~ that certainly sounds like a very, very effective way to make him bend to my will… haha ~ thanks for the tips
When I get pregnant again, we will have the same problem. For two years now, my husband has insisted on a certain girls name. I’m not a fan but said I might consider it if I can use a certain nickname. As soon as his mom heard the name she said it was fine as long as we didn’t call her that certain nickname. I love my MIL and she had no idea that was the nickname I liked. So, it will be interesting to say the least if we have a girl next time.
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Good luck with this. Hubby is pretty okay with the names I picked out for the first. He gets veto power but that is about it!
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Well.. it looks like for now we’ve agreed on a tentative name for a girl…. now if it’s a boy……